In order to become an inspiring place for children to grow up, we must begin to accept and take responsibility for present conditions.
Right now, Canada is too dangerous and abusive an environment for children to develop optimally.
On April 22, the Canadian Medical Association Journal published a study that found more than one-third of Canadians have personally experienced abuse as a child. One-third! You can read Sarah Boesveld’s summary of the study in the National Post HERE.
In case you think these conditions are exaggerated, the study identifies and itemizes the various forms of physical abuse, sexual abuse, and exposure to domestic violence. Conditions really are this bad. We can, essentially, show you the bruises.
In case you think these conditions are a blip, Boesveld pulls comparative numbers from similar studies completed over the past 25 years. We didn’t get here overnight. We’ve been like this for too long.
I keep writing “we” because the prevalence of abuse is too high for us to depersonalize the problem. When it’s one in three, I don’t want find myself having coffee with two friends, talking about child abuse like its merely some societal dilemma.
It’s me and you. We have to change. We can grow.
I can do things today to make Canada the best place in the world for a child to grow.
Would you join me?
A Personal Response
Here are four ways we can personally respond to the prevalence of child abuse:
1) We can evaluate and work on self.
How has childhood trauma affected me? Is past pain in me producing present pain in others? Who do I need to share my story with? Who can I ask for help?
We can answer these question honestly, find direction, and grow personally.
2) We can serve someone.
If a child came from a dangerous, abusive environment, into our care, how would we treat them? Would we serve them with kindness? Would we protect them from discrimination? Would we show them value? Would we speak positively of them? Would we be patient with them?
We can serve the people we interact with as if their lives have been affected by childhood trauma. Because, of course, they probably have been.
3) We can become trauma informed.
The human services sector is growing increasingly aware of and responsive to the pervasive influence of trauma on human development. Mirroring a perspective of resilience, a clear perspective of the impacts of trauma on resilience is crucial to seeing and serving people well.
In the coming weeks, on the blog, we’ll highlight some of the important conditions, definitions, effects, and connections related to childhood trauma. If we begin to look at our community as a field hospital for victims of trauma, we can begin to do business differently. We can become trauma informed in our parenting, teaching, serving and leading.
4) We can be relationship inspired.
Ultimately, this is what we are all about.
It’s our vision to grow a world of inspiring relationships. We’re here to serve you and learn together how to cultivate better relationships.
Healthier relationships prevent trauma and increase protection. Better relationships heal the effects of abuse and break the cycle. Mature relationships create safe environments for children to grow.
We can, personally, learn how to grow inspiring relationships and take responsibility for the prevalence of child abuse in Canada.
What would you like to learn next?